First of May

Song of the day...



In other news,

Osama Bin Laden is pronounced dead.

It’s a bit disturbing to see people celebrating as if they just won a sport game. Yes, it’s a victory, but it is just tacky to celebrate someone’s death, no matter how vile and vicious that person may be. The cycle of hatred and violence never truly ends unless we learn something from it. Have some class, America.

"I will mourn the loss of thousands of precious lives, but I will not rejoice in the death of one, not even an enemy. Returning hate for hate multiplies hate, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that."
~Martin Luther King, Jr.

Pelagia's Song

When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No... don't blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away. Doesn't sound very exciting, does it? But it is! --- Iannis (Captain Corelli's Mandolin)

Note to self

Stumbled on this and needless to say, I pretty much agreed with everything the author had written down. What’s the point of being with someone who doesn’t truly “get” you anyway?

11 Things Every Girl Should Hold Out For
By Shallon Lester

Since I’m in between relationships at the moment, I’ve had some time to think about what I want and don’t want in a future partner. It helps, too, that I’ve had ample opportunity to observe all of my friends and their relationships. So I made a list of some must-haves we single ladies should be looking for. Well, not just looking for, but holding out for. Here’s what is non-negotiable:

1. A guy who can make you laugh. Some things in life are not funny. Can he make you at least chuckle when the chips are down?

2. A guy who will laugh at your jokes and “get” you. He might not understand you perfectly on the first date, but if you think you’re funny at all, I hope he gets that and appreciates it about you. Otherwise, you could be Kathy Griffin and you’ll still be laughing alone your whole life. Well, she's single. But I mean, if Kathy Griffin were—whatever!

3. A guy who will attend your lame “things.” Adult dance recital, Mom’s birthday party? Find the guy who will go to something boring even though he will get nothing out of it—but he'll go for you.

4. A guy who will do nothing with you. And I mean Nothing. If you’re feeling low-energy, anti-social, or blah, can he sit and do nothing with you or does he always leave you on the couch and go party with the guys? And could you two entertain each other on a deserted island or while stuck in traffic?

5. A guy who will give you a thoughtful gift or card. Not every time, obviously, but I would hope this dude would have his moments of showing you he has thought about you.

6. A guy who will say he loves you. I do not care about his made-up theory that love is just a social construct or what have you. Hold out for someone who can and will say it. Also, he shouldn’t say it just because you want him to; he should say it because it feels good to say it.

7. A guy you respect. Does he have a good head on his shoulders? Does he generally like his job? Is he proud of himself? Let’s hope so, ‘cause if you think he’s a lazy idiot, you’ll end up resenting him.

I asked some of my friends what they held out for, and this is what they told me….

8. A guy you have good chemistry with. He doesn’t have to be Jude Law, but you should be attracted enough so that every time you have an argument, you will be motivated (by your underlying desire for him!) to work it out.

9. A guy who agrees with you about travel. If you have wanderlust and he never wants to leave his hometown, don’t compromise by staying with him long-term and staying home. It’s fine to be a homebody, but if you're interested in exploring, find a guy with the travel bug. Otherwise, you’ll look back one day when you’re too old, tired, or broke and you'll wish you had seen the world.

10. A guy with similar family goals. Don’t compromise on whether or not you’ll have kids. If you want them, find a guy who does. Me, I don’t get serious with guys who say “maybe” they want kids. I want someone who feels as sure as I do—and I can't talk anyone in or out of anything.

And finally, the best one—of course, comes from my wise friend Melissa:

11. “Wait for someone who sees you the way you want to be seen. He thinks you’re smart, funny, beautiful and powerful—always. Even on days when you can’t believe any of that about yourself.”

That’s a good one! Can’t wait for that.

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/11-things-every-girl-should-hold-out-for-1763887/;_ylt=AutV7agyFyHm3XDlgmH_rd.Nb6U5

Angel of Music

Date with sisters and Mom at The Pantages Theatre in Hollywood for The Phantom of the Opera. I’ve been obsessed with this play since forever. How obsessed, you ask? Like, read-the-book-and-memorized-EVERY-damn-song obsessed. When the movie came out, I literally had goosebumps the entire time that I had to watch it two more times to make sure I didn’t miss a thing.





Sigh. If I can combine The Phantom and Raoul in one man, I will be a very, very happy gal. How’s that for obsession?

"It's all make believe, isn't it?"

Many might dismiss Marilyn Monroe as nothing but a dumb blonde but I’ve got to say, I’d rather engage in an interesting, dinner conversation with her than hear a bunch of pseudo-intellectuals yap about the most boring shit imaginable. The girl has something multidimensional about her that most major stars have. One does not get that big just by being blonde and having large breasts (though it may have helped just a bit, with some positive and negative results, I’m sure). Some of the things she has said showed some insight and has made me laugh, smile, and yes, even tear up a little.

Below is a list of my favorite quotes from her. The list was meant to be short, but I ended up adding more instead. See, told ya she had a lot to say. Now, stop staring at her undeniable beauty and actually listen to what she’s saying. You might just learn something. It’s a new year after all.

"I am not interested in money. I just want to be wonderful."

"No one ever told me I was pretty when I was a little girl. All little girls should be told they are pretty, even if they aren't."

"I don't know who invented high heels, but all women owe him a lot."

"I don't mind living in a man's world as long as I can be a woman in it."

"It's not true that I had nothing on. I had the radio on."

"Sex is part of nature. I go along with nature."

"It's woman's spirit and mood a man has to stimulate in order to make sex interesting. The real lover is the man who can thrill you by touching your head or smiling into your eyes or just staring into space."

"Wouldn't it be nice to be like men, just getting notches in your belt, having affairs with the most attractive men . . . and not getting emotionally involved."

"Hollywood is a place where they'll pay you a thousand dollars for a kiss and fifty cents for your soul."

"It stirs up envy, fame does. People...feel fame gives them some kind of privilege to walk up to you and say anything to you--and it won't hurt your feelings--like it's happening to your clothing."

"Fame is fickle and I know it. It has its compensations, but it also has its drawbacks and I've experienced them both."

"I've often stood silent at a party for hours listening to my movie idols turn into dull and little people."

"With fame, you know, you can read about yourself, somebody else's ideas about you, but what's important is how you feel about yourself--for survival and living day to day with what comes up."

"I restore myself when I'm alone. A career is born in public, talent in privacy."

"I'm for the individual as opposed to the corporation. The way it is the individual is the underdog, and with all the things a corporation has going for them the individual comes out banged on her head. The artist is nothing. It's really tragic."

"I want to grow old without facelifts. I want to have the courage to be loyal to the face I have made."

"I've never dropped anyone I believed in."

"It's often just enough to be with someone. I don't need to touch them. Not even talk. A feeling passes between you both. You're not alone."

"It's better to be unhappy alone than unhappy with someone - so far."

"I'm trying to find myself as a person, sometimes that's not easy to do. Millions of people live their entire lives without finding themselves. But it is something I must do. The best way for me to find myself as a person is to prove to myself that I am an actress."

"I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go. Things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right. You believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."

"Remember now, cheers, no tears..."